Stop Asking This Question and Watch Your Life Move Forward
As an entrepreneur, one of the questions I ask myself the most is “Will this work?”
During my jog yesterday, it suddenly hit me that this question is set up for failure the moment I either think it or say it. Inherently embedded in this question is “doubt.” This simple, yet not useful question, swims in a bubble of complete and unadulterated fear and worry.
Well, it seems as though the Universe was conspiring against me yesterday, because I also heard a minister friend say: “The Universe is committed to me at the level that I am committed to it.”
Well, when I ask myself “Will this work?” I am actually mirroring back to the universal law of cause and effect that I do not believe that it will work – and it usually does not. Simply put, this is a self-fulfilling prophecy in question form. The good news is there is a much better question to ask that moves the game toward a winning outcome.
Ask yourself instead: “What is the impact this will have?”
What I love about this question is that there is always an answer and it will never be a yes/no response. Yes/no responses are not creative; they are instead limiting, and have very little room for your imagination to run wild. When I ask about the impact, I am in a state of openness, curiosity and wonder. There is little room for doubt and fear. I just feel better.
The other day Chuck and I were talking about STAGE, our new product offering, and were discussing the best way to message and market it to our world. I remember going away from that meeting wondering if it was going to work… a.k.a. an open doorway into a pit of worry and anxiety.
I caught myself, though, and instead asked my new favorite question, “What is the impact STAGE will have?”
I immediately had some answers that served and felt so much better:
“Folks who really want to deliver their message successfully will certainly gain value and learn a bunch of cool tips for success.”
“I know that I will feel fulfilled because whenever I get in front of people with something I deeply believe in, I come alive!”
Wow, what a better state to be in rather than worrying about if it will work or not.
Now it’s your turn. Replace “Will this work?” with “What is the impact this will have?” and see the difference it creates in your life. I’d love to hear what you learn.
Meanwhile, may 2019 be the year where you truly show up big and create the impact you long to create with this amazing thing called your life.
More to come-
I was thinking the same thing as I was considering whether or not to make the investment in STAGE. I was thinking of it more in terms of getting validation from you, as a way to decide. I know I can make an impact with people, but will this idea work?
I’ll re-frame and see what happens, thanks for sharing———==bruce
Thank you for being a catalyst for higher energy thinking, creating and being. Your insight to life’s little lessons have transformed my reality into something really special. The Bigger Game and all its pieces have had a profound impact on myself and a small group of Allies in upstate New York. Speaking for the group, we sincerely appreciate you and what you’ve offered. Stay inspired. We need more of you in this world. _CC
You might find interesting what Dennis Prager has to say about mind set and expectaions. He covers the topic in his book “Happiness is a Serious Problem.”
Love this question, Rick! Thanks for the reframe!
Love this. xoxo
Danette T. Herrera
Yes, no risk no gain. Only words or dream don’t have any impact unless we take action. Thanks for the nice post.