The truth about overwhelm. Is it just me?
I love being in business for myself! I truly get to make up my life my way. And wow, sometimes this comes with a big cost:
OVERWHELM
On most any given day, I can experience a whole range of thoughts and emotions ā some even go to the extreme of āI QUIT!ā
Laura Whitworth, my co-creator of The Bigger Game, used to say āIf there arenāt any days in your month when you donāt say, āI quit, this is too much or too hard,ā it simply means the current āgameā you are playing needs to go to the next level of expression.ā
Well believe me, I have days where ALL I want to say is āI quit!ā
Am I alone in this?
It seems like thereās always too much to do, not enough time, and certainly not enough money to make it all happen the way that Iād like.
And with technology, it seems as though itās impossible to keep up. Just as you think you have something figured out, they go and change it on you.
Can you relate?
Iām currently in that classic entrepreneur spot: I need help. To date, itās only Chuck and myself. Do we break down and hire someone full time to help? How do we afford to pay that someone?
Hereās what typically happens: I get a creative idea. We discuss. And then: Worry. Fatigue. Overwhelm. Stuck. Rinse. Repeat.
Is it just me?
To help combat the overwhelm I experience, Iāve learned that itās important to step outside of my business life to recharge. To do so, I have three different practices that I like to call my Creative Recovery Tools:
Cross-Fit ā when Iām not traveling I head to my neighborhood cross-fit class at the end of my workday. Itās such a great way to let off steam, and take care of my body all at the same time. And the endorphins that are released are like chocolate, but way healthier.
Reflective reading time ā No matter how busy I am, I always try to find at least 15 minutes of quite time to feed my soul. Currently on my bedside table youāll find High Performance Habits (Brendon Burchard) and Conscious Creation (Dee Wallace ā she played the Mom in the movie ET!).
Hoganās Heroes ā This show just plain makes Chuck and I laugh! Most nights we watch an episode or two just before drifting off to sleep. Itās so much more fun to go to bed laughing instead of worrying (Itās on the MeTV channel).
The above three things help keep me fresh, focused and in the game. They help take my mind off of the overwhelm that I experience.
Now Iām not suggesting that you practice the above-mentioned things, unless, of course, they work for you too. But what I do suggest is that you create 2 or 3 practices that do work, to help keep you calm, cool and creative.
Iād love to hear what they are!
Blessings-
Rick
Lisa Friedlander
Rick, I love ? your wisdom especially about laughing before bed time. I would add a fourth suggestion, an electronic āsabbathā once a week. Itās really helping to ground me and to replenish my creative self.
Rick Tamlyn
Hi Lisa– could not agree more. I love the term “electronic sabbath.” Can I quote you on that? Hope you are doing well.
Jeanmarie
I meditate each morning before I move into the day, when on overwhelm, I add an extra bit of time for silence mid-day. I get out to commune with my horse several times a week, and all day on one weekend day. That horse is my best buddy, the caring is reciprocal, and being grounded in the here and now relaxes my mind and body like nothing I have ever done before. This is a fairly new, two year, experience for me. He requires a commitment from me, and in return I receive built in down time. When I get really bogged down I take a three day retreat somewhere fairly locally and try to learn new things, changes my focus and expands my brain space.
Rick Tamlyn
Animals have so much to teach us—right!!!!!! Have you ever considered doing a Leadership program using horses? Just an idea. Best- Rick Tamlyn
Lisa Brewer
I love the ideas above. I also find spending time in nature, even if Iām just weeding, really refreshes me.
Rick Tamlyn
Lisa– the metaphor of weeding is just too good. I see a blog post from you about that perhaps.
Hope your well-
Best- Rick